There are no promises of life without struggle or disappointment, but I have finally accepted life does not have to be my way in order for me to be happy at times and at peace most of the time.
Plugging along in life doing what I believe is the “right” thing even if in love can create struggle. Frankly my “right” thing might aggravate the hell out of her or him or you. Once we get the personalities roiling chaos ensues as everyone struggles to be “right,” King or Queen of the Hill.
Don Miguel Ruis in The Four Agreements says
- give up being “right” for peace,
- don’t take things “personally,”
- don’t “ass-u-me” you know all of the facts; and,
- do your “personal best.”
Experience has shown me if I get judged wrong often enough even though I am acting what I believe is “nice” and “right,” I turned mean and Don Miguel flew out the window.
But today and really for a few days now, after looking back on myself, fourth stepping style, for the first time I understand becoming mean was a choice. In saying that I am not saying I haven’t said or written that before, but sitting here today I do not think I could use the word “understand” in that sentence before.
Now that I embrace choice as real, I could sit next to Satan–the D’evil– himself, and not give up my happiness or peace. Some might say I did and failed
, and they would be right about my giving away my happiness and peace anyway. So what is different?
I had to face who I am not with eyes wide open to know who I Am. For the most part, before I allowed my eyes to move from me to others. I stopped wanting peace more than being “right,” I took everything personally, I assumed facts that did not exist and in turn my personal best was corrupted by my outward, as opposed to inward, focus.
Now, I do the opposite:
- I want peace, being right is transient; peace is forever;
- I ask questions and accept answers which I do not
personify; if other people have issues those issues are theirs not
mine–they get to sort them out without me;
- I only know about my life and what you tell me about
yours, I do not spend time trying to figure out what’s really going on
any more;
- I set each step down in love with the idea of showing
my love, even if that makes me look weak or confused or … if I fail I
start over; and
- I accept I do not have control over others and am powerless over the choas others invite into their lives–I have power and control only over me and how I act and think.
and I choose to do what I do cheerfully.
Cheerfulness must accompany right action. When you feel sad or are in a negative mood, you get out of that state if you make up your mind to be cheerful. Gurudeve used to say, “If you make up your mind to be happy, nothing can make you unhappy. But if you make up your mind to be unhappy, nothing can make you happy.” So make up you mind to be always cheerfuul. When conditions are unfavorable, keep the mind positive, remembering that trouble is only temporary and will pass away.
–Sri Daya Mata in Only Love Living the Spiritual Life in a Changing World.
It is possible to live in a world predominated by violence, hatred, meanness and not become less than you are by leading out in love. It is a choice each of us makes when we are embroiled in struggle, chaos, pain and suffering.
Even if you were mean once, even if for a long time, you can now decide that mean spirited person is not you and choose to be someone else. That “mean you” then becomes a mental boundary showing YOU who You ARE NOT.
Sometimes we slip and in those times if you truly desire to let go of that You, the boundary will become more pronounced in your thinking, until one day it is indelible and you reflexively recognize it. Then the next time you are near crossing the boundary you will recognize the signs and will be able to deliberately evaluate whether to cross and sacrifice Your peace or not. Those moments when you allow another to keep their thoughts, without sacrificing who you are and how you act, will carve the boundary deeper into your soul until you recognize the futility of anything but love, even though others will judge that too–No matter.
Trust me, taking control of your thinking, your attitude and your behavior puts you on the road to knowing the One— the All that Is. Then You can sit by the D’evil, as we all do everyday, and know the peace of the Light enfolding you.
Peace on Your Journey
May You feel Love’s [God] Omnipresent Embrace
Namaste`
Mara 
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