August 25, 2007

• LETTING
  GO OF CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK

  There are times when all of us preen for attention, approval.  Your handling of what You do when others fail to know what You’ve done or the purity of Your motives presents a challenge.  Letting others see things their way without losing some of you– to not
  care;  to see the beauty of “whatever;”  to accept You did Your personal best in that moment, at that time, no matter what others
  see or hear or do is the challenge.

  What we see
  depends mainly on what we look for.
  - John Lubbock

  Ahh–so what others see and how they react is based not just on what You did, but on what they are willing to recognize You did–what they allow themselves to see.  The same is true for you.
  

  
  

  So, allow others their moments of blindness and do not take criticism or harsh words to heart.  Then you will begin an important life lesson–not making the actions of everyone around You personally about You–simply said not taking things personally.  By so doing You refuse  to look for hidden meanings connected to You that may be missing and even if they are there, You will not sacrifice Your peace by seeing them

  
  

  When people speak
  badly of you, you should respond in this way: Keep a steady heart and don’t
  reply with harsh words. Practice letting go of resentment and accepting that
  the other’s hostility is the spur to your understanding. Be kind, adopt a
  generous standpoint, treat your enemy as a friend, and suffuse all your world
  with affectionate thoughts, far-reaching and widespread, limitless and free
  from hate. In this state you should try to remain.
  -Dhammapada

  
  

  If You keep
  thinking “That man has abused me,” holding it as a much cherished
  grievance, Your anger will never be allayed. If You can put down that fury
  inducing thought, You anger will lessen. Fury will never end fury, it will
  richochet on and on. Only putting it down will end such an abysmal state.
  –Sunnata Vagga

  Finally,

  Among the profuse
  precious things a man may acquire,
  None surpasses a nature free from envy toward all.
  -Tirukkural 162

  Be at peace with Your
  best efforts.
  

  Love in life
  

  Mara

   

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